You have problems? Do not worry, it’s something good!

Our biggest problem is that we think we should not have any problems. We believe that a good life is one without problems. Well, a life without problems is nonexistent! There is no such thing as life without problems!

How would we evolve, how would we grow, how would we develop on different levels if we have no problems?

The seed that sprouts in the earth must make an effort to get out of it in the form of a plant. The chicken must make an effort to get out of the shell. The caterpillar undergoes a profound transformation until it becomes a butterfly. Effort is needed to evolve. And, evolution is inevitable! I firmly believe that one of our goals on this earth is evolution.

Trouble is what makes us grow.

Yeah, surely, it’s sometimes hard! But when we get to the end of the tunnel, when we see the light again, we are much stronger and wiser than we were when we entered!

I think a positive attitude towards trouble is the right one.

Here are the two perspectives …

“Oh my! Why do all this shit happen to me ?! Why do I have this shitty life?! I can not take it anymore!”

or, the alternative..

“Yes, this situation is a difficult one, but I am grateful for this opportunity of growth. Maybe I did not want it, but if it’s here.. Let’s see, what can I learn from what’s going on? What message is this specific trouble trying to send me?”

The first perspective makes us perceive troubles as something insurmountable. Our internal attitude only increases the perceived problem in intensity. But the second perspective is something different, it makes a positive reframeing by focusing on the positive embedded aspect (the lesson we should learn). A positive reframe is taking a specific situation and finding something good in it.

Winston Churchill said: If you’re going through hell, keep going.

The first perspective involves going through hell and stopping to admire the view. Of course, what we see disturbs and scares us in many ways!

The second perspective involves going through hell by focusing on maintaining our inner balance and looking for the resources that will help us get out of there as soon as possible, BUT, not before we learn our lesson.

The goal is not to get out of hell, but to learn the lesson!

Otherwise, if we do not learn our lesson, the universe is generous and will give us a new opportunity to learn it. Hell will wait for us again!

So, our troubles bring us not only suffering, but also power! Seeing the difficulties that we encounter in life as something positive, constructive, eventually beneficial, can make life a lot easier.

Problems are inevitable! Suffering is optional! The choice is ours!